New year, new me?
So, another year has passed and all too quickly, am I right!?
Now is the time we all make promises to ourselves about what the new year will hold, what kind of people we will be, and what we will do better than the year before.
I don’t know about you, but most of the time my big new years resolution ends up getting stored away with all of my Christmas ornaments.
So this year, I am going to give you a few small and realistic new years resolutions to consider that I think can make a difference in your day-to-day and hopefully your year!
Remember, no amount progress is ever too small!
1. MAKE TIME
There is a common misconception that there are just not enough hours in the day. Now, before you get mad at me, I get it, most of the time it feels like there really aren’t.
But… there are! You just have to look harder.
It’s very easy to fill a day with meaningless errands, piles of laundry, or a bottomless pit of emails.
When you begin to prioritize your day correctly you will find pockets of time all over the place.
There is this concept of “The Big Rocks” in life. Some of you may be familiar with this, some of you may not be. But if you are a visual learner like myself you will probably get a lot out of this!
Take a moment to watch this video below:
So, the bottom line is, try to factor in whatever it is that brings joy and adds depth to your life. Here are a few day-to-day examples:
- Calling an old friend (or any friend for that matter!)
- Take a dance class
- Read a fictional book that serves no educational purpose
- Play a game with your family or friends (not on your phone)
- Take a walk outside in nature
Then there are some more long term examples e.g. having children, finding your passion in life or traveling. But, today we are going to focus on the baby steps.
Just remember, we could endlessly fill our days with the little things, don’t feel guilty telling those things to wait if it means you can make time for the stuff that really matters.
2. BE PATIENT –
I think this falls into two categories:
A) Be Patient with yourself
When we don’t reach our goals in time, whether its a health goal, a personal goal, or a goal at work, we start the negative self talk.
This whole shaming yourself thing – never, once, not even a little, has helped.
When you have one of these days, instead of spiraling downward, remember that tomorrow is a new day and we can strive to do better then!
Be patient, don’t be so hard on yourself, and try to believe (as hard as it can be sometimes) that everything happens for a reason.
B) Be patient with others
New York City is a breeding ground of impatient people. We want everything now and we needed to be everywhere five minutes ago. Getting stuck behind a family dawdling down the street in SoHo could very easily ruin our day. As could waiting a few extra minutes for our food. But why?? Are we really in that much of a rush? And if we are, do you think we could go about it a different way?
You never know what kind of a day someone is having. Be patient with those that you are close to and even more so with those you are not.
Try to make one small gesture each day.
Open a door for someone, pick up someone’s scarf they dropped, or just simply share a smile.
A little goes a long way! It costs absolutely nothing to be nice.
3. BE PRESENT-
This one can be easier said than done.
It’s a tough concept because it is so intangible. How do you know if you are being present? If you are currently somewhere doing something, how are you not present?
Here are a few easy tips and tricks that I use to try to stay present whenever I can:
- When someone is speaking, Listen! Sounds simple right? When someone is speaking, even thinking about how we are going to respond means that we aren’t completely listening. Try to listen to the words that are coming out of their mouth and not the words in your head that are yelling “the same thing happened to me!” or “I know how to help”. Sometimes the most help you can be to someone is simply giving them your ear in a judgment free space.
- Breathe. Also sounds simple, right? I’m not talking about those short shallow breaths in and out of our chest, but those deep breaths that we can feel all the way in our bellybutton. Next time you are sitting in the sun somewhere beautiful, instead of pulling your phone out, just breathe. Relish in the fact that you will never be in this moment again, and enjoy it!
- Chew! Now, this one may seem silly, but being present when we are eating is so important. We so often inhale our food in a rush, but where is the joy in that? Not to mention when you chew more, you end up eating less and helping to aid your digestion. Stop thinking about that next bite and enjoy the one in your mouth!
- Do more of what makes you happy
- Be nice
- Be patient
- Don’t judge
- And most of all (because we are all guilty of this!)… Don’t let life pass you by while you are busy scrolling through your phone 🙂 !!
I have a good feeling about this year!
Let’s try to make 2017 the best one yet!
My best to you,